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Christie To Sign Bill To Open Adoption Records For The First Time Since 1940, Report Says

Compromise between governor and legislature gives birth parents until Dec. 31, 2016 to decide if they want to be contacted


Gov. Chris Christie and state lawmakers have reached an historic agreement that will give adopted New Jerseyans access to their birth certificates, capping a 34-year effort supporters described as a civil rights struggle for their identities and medical histories, according to a report in the Star-Ledger.

Under the compromise that will be announced today, adoption records would be opened in New Jersey for the first time since 1940, when they were sealed by a court order.

To read the entire story, click here: http://www.nj.com/politics/index.ssf/2014/04/christie_nj_legislators_reach_compromise_to_let_adoptee...

joan April 28, 2014 at 04:40 PM
Dear Jane Doe, Many of the mothers wanted it to be open and had no choice. They told the mothers "oh sure the child (adult) will be given information when they reach of age" When in fact that was a lie. they (govt and agencys and drs. lawyers) lied to accomplish what they wanted to do. Get the baby , so they could make money performing adoptions.
Jane Doe April 28, 2014 at 05:03 PM
Joan, I could counter this with an example of my friend whose older half-brother, who was given up for adoption, "found" his birth mother, played on her emotions and sense of guilt, and used her to fund his drug addiction. He ruined her financially and made the family's life hell. Look, I'm not saying this is the norm, but there is not always a happy ending and if a birth parent wants records to remain sealed, it should be so ..... or at least have all communication through an intermediary.
joan April 28, 2014 at 05:46 PM
Dear Jane doe, I can also tell you how people get duped by paid search companies. By fraud, of people pretending to be their biological siblings, or adoptee, or relative. Yes, its ok if there is a consent form or non consent form for contact. You are correct not everyone wants to be reunited. Some adoptees don't care to be contacted either. How much is the intermediary going to cost. Did they establish a mutual consent registry for both parties to sign up on for NJ. Right now NJ doesn't have one.
Lisa Shields April 30, 2014 at 09:02 AM
A few years back, I watched a documentary that followed a young adult attempting to contact her birth mother. She sat sobbing on her mother's doorstep, the door locked, the curtains drawn. Her birth mother did NOT want to meet her...had made another life. Opening the records will result in a lot more of these scenes. I understand the need to know who you came from...but I know of several people who did not understand that adoption is a painful choice for the birth mother...and some are not happy tales at all. There is a tendency to romanticize the whole process. Most people are not ready to find out why they were given to adoption. And there is nothing in place to help the people who are left with harsh truths, instead of willing birth parents.
joan May 06, 2014 at 07:26 PM
A mutual consent registry means both parties voluntarily signed up. For those who are interested in such a database, check out registry. adoption dot com

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