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20 School Districts with the Most Bullying Incidents; Brick Is On List

We’ve compiled the 20 School Districts with the Most Bullying Incidents for the 2012-2013 school year. Not surprisingly, Newark had the most bullying incidents since it has the largest student body in the state. But there are some surprises.

Last week we put together a list of the 9 Most Violent School Districts in New Jersey. What we tried to do in that list was to use the same statistical analysis for incidents of violence in schools as we would for municipal crime stats. In other words, if one town had 40 assaults and 10,000 people, while another town had 300 assaults and 100,000 people, the former would actually have a higher rate of assaults.

Today, we’ve compiled the 20 School Districts with the Most Bullying Incidents for the 2012-2013 school year. For this list, we kept ratios out of the equation and simply went with raw numbers. Not surprisingly, Newark had the most bullying incidents since it has the largest student body in the state. But there are some surprises further down the list.

Again, all of this data is pulled from the state of New Jersey’sViolence, Vandalism and Substance Abuse in the Schools Report.

As with any data, there are some important points to remember, and the most important point here is that this data is self-reported by the districts. That’s why Paterson, with its 24,000 students, only reported one incident of bullying last year. The other point is that the reporting category is called “Harassment, Intimidation and Bullying,” which we’ve shortened to simply “bullying.”

MehMehMeh December 09, 2013 at 03:16 PM
No one ever handled my issues with bullying including 2 physical attacks. Yet bullying will not be tolerated? Ohhhkay.
EllenS08723 December 09, 2013 at 03:41 PM
The kids who bullied my son were from Brick NOT lakewood. Stop trying to blame a problem on an extenuating circumstance like to Lakewood high school student situation. Fact is bullying was an issue in brick long before that happened.
Rick Ricky December 09, 2013 at 04:04 PM
Bullying is a problem in all the schools. You have a situation were administration, teachers look the other way. Not only is most bullying not reported, it is denied and happening like everything else in the schools. The schools don't want to report any problems. It makes their school and them look bad. You can't have that. It is all a joke. I don't believe all these incident reports. Who puts them in? The schools who lie about what is going on under their roofs. Ohhhkay.
down&out December 09, 2013 at 04:30 PM
It is clear that these numbers are ridiculously low and that school administrators are doing anything they can to dissuade students and teachers from filing these reports. 172 in a district of 35,000 students? Even under 100 incidents in districts with 10,000 students is laughable. School administrators are doing everything they can to suppress these numbers because they think it will make them look bad instead of actually helping children who are affected.
Melinda Murray December 09, 2013 at 04:31 PM
What is considered bullying? Is it one kid telling another to eat a mint because they have bad breath? Is it punching someone? Is it left up to the discretion of whoever is handling the incident?
Jerseyclone December 09, 2013 at 04:39 PM
This just continues to confirm the total incompetence of the school administration and the school board. Discipline does not exist and old fashion discipline like getting thrown out of school and only to return with parents, charging both the kid and parents with a crime... My tax dollars are for education, which is seriously lacking based on observations, and not for BS, family and friends. We as voters have to get smarter.
Mare December 09, 2013 at 04:57 PM
If the schools would stop the cover ups the incident count would be much lower. All the schools care about today is covering up so they are not held liable and sued. If they did their jobs, they would NOT be sued. They are charged with protecting your children and they do NOT protect. One other thing to remember, under law, school districts are NOT considered "care takers" of our children. This means don't even bother calling DYFS on the things they do. Ours started with kids bullying and graduated to teachers bullying our child. When certain teachers were abusing our child, we filmed it and called child services, they were polite and understanding, but they let us know, their hands are tied. If you have a child who is being abused, here is the advice of a lifetime. Get an appointment calendar, desk top, big spaces and everytime there is an incident, write it in the spot for that date, DO NOT throw ANY notes at all out from your school district. One of the best notes I had was a note from the school psychologist calling me names and "pot shot" diagnosing me. I was afraid that note would make me look bad, it went completely the other way showing her disrespect for the childs parents and her unwillingness to work with us.
Brian December 09, 2013 at 05:24 PM
How about instead of being scared and going to the teacher or school administration, you teach your kid to stand up for themselves? I'm 29 years old, and all of a sudden, in the time that I have been out of school, bullying must have been invented. I'm not saying to go around fighting everyone, but if the proper authority in the school won't take care of it, teach your kid to stand up and defend themselves. Stop babying them and telling them that hitting is a "no no". It's 2013 and our society is so weak minded across the board
Chief Wahoo December 09, 2013 at 06:01 PM
Toughen up kids. Im just counting the days until my taxpayer paid pension and health benefits for life.
Nicole Marie Doherty December 09, 2013 at 06:16 PM
When I went to Brick Memorial back in 2004-2008, I was picked by this guy who would call me a 'Crazy B*tch' everyday and when I asked for teachers to please make him stop, they wouldn't do anything and he even would bully me in front of faculty and teachers! I had no other choice, but to punch him in his bratty little face, which of course I was suspended. Not only that he threatened to set my hair on fire while he had a lighter in his hand and when I told the vice principal about it, he just told me, "Oh, *insert boy's name* was just joking." Mind you the boy admitted he had a lighter on him even though it's against school policy to have one! So it doesn't surprise me that Brick Memorial made the bullying problem list. But at least my Stewart Mango cartoon came out of all this bullying I received my whole life and how teachers were unhelpful to me, because I didn't have a 'broken home life' or 'divorced parents'.
Mare December 09, 2013 at 06:53 PM
Brian, when you teach your children violence, they get kicked out of school, this is what we're trying to prevent. You are correct that this type of behavior is learned at home, whether it's acceptable behavior or bullying!
Brian December 09, 2013 at 07:21 PM
Mare, I never said to teach them violence. Teaching them to stand up for themselves is a different thing. Teaching them violence could and would be teaching them to be a bully. I will have no issue with my kid(s) (when they are older and in school) get suspended for standing up for themselves. I'll have an issue with the principal, but it is what it is.
Brian December 09, 2013 at 07:22 PM
Chief Wahoo, what is that supposed to mean btw???
Penn Cross December 09, 2013 at 07:27 PM
If your child is physically assaulted in school why not call the police yourself, instead of allowing school officials to handle the situation? If someone assaults you while you're walking down the street, the police are called and the criminal is arrested. It shouldn't be handled as something less than physical assault just because it occurs at school.
Rick Ricky December 09, 2013 at 07:28 PM
I believe all of you. Every situation is different. I also feel that you all have valid points. Brian, I agree. I taught my children. Do not start a fight, do not bully or start trouble. If you need to protect yourself. If someone goes to hit you, you hit them back. Do not take abuse from anyone. Guess what it worked, kids left them a lone. Mare, I understand your point too, sometimes it has to be done because you have school administrators and teachers who don't do their jobs. Plus I wouldn't trust their word anyway. I saw it turned around pretty easy, especially if it is a kid that they like or know their parents. That is how it works, it is not always by the kid who does what is right. It goes by popularity and who they are. It is disgusting and teachers and administrators should start being fired and charged with endangering and false reporting on the wrong students. Something needs to be done. More parents need to start sending complaints to the County and State on all these problems. Parents should be able to press charges on the school. This can no longer be over looked or brushed off. They need to be held accountable for what is going on. They need to do their job and if not complain, call the papers, keep at it until something gets done and changes are made.
Nicole Marie Doherty December 09, 2013 at 08:05 PM
Also to the people saying that instead of telling the teachers about the bullying stand up to the bully: whenever I stood up to bullies by insulting them back for some reason I would be the one who got introuble. Also most the Lakewood/Maple Leaf type people generally stayed with their own kind and bullied each other, at least when I attended Brick Memorial. Most my bullies were heavy girls(I was skinny) and that balding boy who would brag nonstop and I hope didn't breed.
Kitchen Craftsman December 09, 2013 at 08:46 PM
Stop crying and Teach your kid how crack someone over there head with a book. You wouldn't let someone push you around so why would you let your kid get pushed around
Mare December 10, 2013 at 06:31 AM
Nicole, I was a school bus driver for 15 years and I'll explain why the bullied kid always gets caught. We are driving along and we hear a noise "Ouch!" We look up and see a child hitting another child. It's always the one who is hit first saying "ouch" then we look up and see that person hitting back. I learned that real quick. I don't recommend hitting back, but if you do make it count because you are likely the one who will be caught.
Stan Broniszewski December 10, 2013 at 07:06 AM
Back in my school days, I was the epitome of school bullying. Even had incidents of a bully jabbing me in the back with a compass point during church services (being I attended parochial schools). My dad slapped me for being a wimp not defending myself. Right after that I again was again bullied. Afterward I addressed the main bully, beat the living sh*t out of him; literally sending the punk into the hospital. Guess what - afterward I got RESPECT.
Dusty December 10, 2013 at 07:15 AM
Maybe the numbers are high since incidents are actually reported. What happened to kids standing up for themselves?
pam ulrich December 10, 2013 at 07:49 AM
Maybe it is because Brick actually reports their bullying incidents. Many school districts do not report them.
Cindy Williams December 10, 2013 at 09:08 AM
Bullies only pick on people who they perceive as weaker so yes teach your children to fight back. Unfortunately bullying is something different now that anyone above the age of 25 has no concept of. Online bullying is something new and unfortunately it has claimed too many young lives due to suicide. You no longer have an issue at school and have the night to get over it and calm down, by the time a kid gets home everyone in the school has heard about it and posts harsh comments online for these victims to read. Also I've seen many cases where children are attacked and its put online. Social media should be banned for students and anyone under 18.
Paul Miles December 10, 2013 at 09:58 AM
The math is flawed. This should be presented as a percentage of students. To rank a school that has 1 more incident than another with 4 or 5 thousand more students is ridiculously skewed.
Maria Fuentes December 10, 2013 at 10:41 AM
Memorial sucks, point blank. No faculty member does anything to prevent bullying. I remember I made a complaint against a student after she harassed me several times, to the HIB director, and what happened? Nothing. She just got told to stop, then continued to do it. They're lazy and have the same mentality as the kids that go there. "If you can't handle your own drama you're pathetic."
Harold L. Burd December 10, 2013 at 01:43 PM
Chance47 My granddaughter was bullied for two and a half years. I tx her and told her to find the girl and deck her. She did got suspended with no chance to appeal. The Brick Memorial High is out of control. The administration does not know H I B laws The whole administration is a disgrace from the principal on down. Time to clean house.
Melinda Murray December 10, 2013 at 04:03 PM
State law does read we can kick a kid out of school. And DO NOT have to provide service
BBW December 10, 2013 at 09:32 PM
That number of incidents is bull crap. You can probably add a zero or 2 to the amount of bullying going on. Glad I don't have to worry about my kids in this town. My daughter went to M.A.S.T. at Sandy Hook and it was the first time I ever saw every teacher and graduate in her class with tears in their eyes. When a school can do that you know that the school worked as a team. My daughter graduated college as a marine biologist and went to work for NOAA. The 20 schools noted include upscale school districts. When Brick gets lumped on the same list as Camden and Newark you have to wonder what the hell the Board of Ed is actually doing to or can do? You can't change the mentality of the parents but you can with the kids. Just survey each student what it is they like or dislike and a few other confidential questions about their school and you might get a clue as to whats going on. Just ask each kid if they have been picked on or if they know some one who is bullied you will get your answer.
Rick Ricky December 10, 2013 at 11:23 PM
BBW, Agreed.....Why ask the kids? The schools administration, teachers and coaches thinks the kids are deaf, dumb and blind. They really think they can't see through their B.S. Which is hysterical to me. Everyone sees through their B.S. By 3rd grade they are seeing through their B.S. They really don't want to change. If they did, it would have been changed. They have no accountability. Especially when you have administrators going right a long with the charades that are going on in their schools. They don't have to change because they have been getting away with doing whatever they want. There is so much wrong going on in the public schools. It is a disgrace. No one is going to change it. It has to be changed within. One who has true guts and morals. Not many left that fall in to that category.
Chief Wahoo December 11, 2013 at 08:50 AM
This is what happens when you send our property taxes to Abbotts !!!! Wake up sheep, you have been bullied by the state.
BBW December 11, 2013 at 04:21 PM
Chief Wahoo is an example of the problem with the adults in town. Moron doesn't realize we are talking about kids being bullied not taxes or the state. Think he's retiring as the toilet cleaner at police headquarters. Now he's going to rant when he reads this. My apologies to all others on the post.

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